When Compromise and Acceptence Are Dangerous
Sometimes You Just Got to Incinerate All those Bridges in an Instant
Isn't it remarkable how you can be within a particular social dynamic that is up to a certain point fun, enjoyable and perhaps even filled with happiness and genuine affection. Then a change or shift takes place—beyond and outside of your knowledge and control—between other parties within the social group/dynamic and then suddenly, you are filled with a sense of darkness and dread. You go from being close—to one or more of these people—to finding it all suddenly toxic and nasty and you just want them out of your life for good?
That an almost inter-relationship code has become corrupted and can't be fixed so you shut it down. It's the strangest, but most palpable sensation. Every cell in your body suddenly sees them as poison to be cut out. It's also amazing how they suddenly become total strangers in your eyes too. Like you never really knew them and now you don't care about and what happens to them again—happy or sad—just as long as they are gone for good.
I'm the type that pulls down the shutters and walks away in an instant and for good when this happens. I don't know how others can stick around with these feelings inside them and tolerate them.
For us, the final divide was 2020 and the responses people had to friendship and interpersonal relationships due to Covid fear. We had to walk away from many "friends" and several family. We are old now and the old become invisible in society. We are glad to be invisible. I was always loyal to a fault, but when friendship was betrayed I would walk away and basically erase that person in my mind. It becomes Live and Let Die.
I “pulled the shutters down” on my NPC brothers in late 2021. My only regret is I didn’t do it 20 years ago.