Beware the White Knight and Professional ‘Nice Guy'

The One Being Slain in Battle is You

Any male who makes a point of playing substitute/alternative dad—too soon and too eagerly—with a single mom's child is NEVER to be trusted. In fact, if there is normal personality conflict between her child and the new man, it can actually be very healthy.

In terms of the overly enthusiatic requirements to buddy up with the woman’s son or daughter—as soon as the relationship is starting—it is always a pathological domination and submission confidence trick.

It also happens in tandem with him increasingly isolating her from previous circles and cultivating ‘her’ opinions for her. By doing things such as finishing her sentences while she is talking to others, and 'advising' her on matters he does not want her to think objectively about. Also correcting her statements with a pointed finger 'lovingly' poking her shoulder. That's really his clenched fist in private punching her when he completely owns 'his woman'...

They generally hover in the background of the woman's life—sometimes for years—looking, monitoring, evaluating and waiting for something to go bad for her so they can swoop in as her "rescuer"/support. It's a kind of psychological Sloppy Seconds. Then she is conditioned to think she 'owes him'.

He will then slowly drive a wedge between her and any other males in her life she is not related to by blood. It will be very tactful and devious. Slowly dissolving the bond she has with these other men until she is the solitary planet orbiting his pale sun in a cosmos of frigid and endless darkness. Passively expecting occasional acts of loyalty on her behalf—that usually involve her public humilation—as a kind of sacrifical ritual to prove herself worthy of her bondage to him.

It’s a trap.